Therapy for Parents · Relational Trauma · Adults
And is starting to suspect it isn't really about the kid. Therapy for parents isn't about techniques and scripts — it's about understanding the relational patterns at play and actually changing how you show up.
The hardest part about parenting isn't the logistics. It's the moments when you look at your kid and recognize something deeply familiar — and realize you might be the thing that needs to shift.
What this is
Therapy for parents focuses on you — your patterns, your triggers, your relational history, and how all of that shows up in the way you parent. Whether you're starting from scratch or you've read every parenting book on the shelf, we meet you exactly where you are.
Some parents come in without a framework at all — and that's completely fine. We build the foundation together: what healthy attachment actually looks like, how your nervous system affects your child's, and what it means to be a regulated presence. You don't need to have any of that figured out before we start.
Others come in knowing all the right things but still can't access them when it counts. That gap between what you know and what you do in the hard moments? That's the work too. Either way, we build both the foundation and the house — whatever you need, in whatever order makes sense for you.
Does this land?
Your kid does something relatively minor and you react in a way that's out of proportion to the situation. You know it, they know it, and later you can't fully account for where that came from. It came from somewhere real.
Half your brain is always running catastrophic scenarios. What if I mess them up? What if I'm too much or not enough? The anxiety of parenthood is real, but when it's running the show, presence becomes impossible.
Certain moments with your kids ping something in you that has nothing to do with them. You find yourself responding to your parent, not your child. The ghosts in the nursery are real — and workable.
Nobody handed you a roadmap. Maybe you didn't have a great example growing up, or maybe you're just overwhelmed and need someone to help you find your footing. That's a completely valid place to begin.
The work
What are the specific moments, behaviors, or dynamics with your kids that consistently activate you? We get specific. Vague insights don't change behavior — understanding the exact pattern does. We trace where these activations come from and what they're protecting.
If you're newer to this, we start here — what healthy attachment actually looks like, how co-regulation works, and what it means to be a present and safe parent. No judgment, no assumed knowledge. We build it together from the ground up.
My therapy for parents is informed by Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT), an evidence-based approach focused on the real-time dynamic between you and your child. Rather than just talking about what happens at home, we look at how you and your child actually interact — and build specific skills to strengthen that relationship from the inside out.
The way we were parented becomes a template — consciously or not. We look at what that template is for you, what you're repeating, what you're overcorrecting, and what might be getting in the way of showing up the way you actually want to.
You cannot think your way into regulation. You need actual tools that work in your body, in real time, before the moment escalates. We build those — not from a script, but from understanding how your specific nervous system works.
Sometimes it's not just about you. We look at the specific dynamic between you and your child — the push-pull, the enmeshment, the disengagement — and we figure out where to intervene and how to shift it.
Classes teach you what to do. This helps you understand why you're not doing it — and actually change that. I'm a licensed therapist with clinical experience working with both children and adults, which means I bring a lens to parenting that goes well beyond behavioral techniques.
When your kid is struggling, it's almost never just about the kid. The system matters. The relationship matters. What you're carrying matters. I help you work on your side of that — which is, frankly, the only side you have actual control over anyway.
This work pulls from EMDR, PCIT, attachment theory, developmental trauma, and interpersonal neurobiology. But mostly, it pulls from paying close attention to what's actually happening between you and your child — and figuring out where to start shifting it.
"Secure attachment isn't something you either had or didn't. It's something you can build, right now, with the kids in front of you." — Alyssa Davis, LMFT
Start with a free consultation. We'll talk about what's coming up in your parenting and whether this kind of work is a fit for you.
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